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How to use ‘I’d love for…’ and ‘I’d hate for…’

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Expressing a Preference with ‘I’d love for’ and ‘I’d hate for’

Both ‘I’d love for’ and ‘I’d hate for’ express a preference or wish for something. Of course, the words love and hate express opposite feelings. However, as you’ll see in the examples, everything depends on context. In addition, tone can convey further meaning. I’ll talk more about tone at the end of this post.

And of course, ‘I’d’ is just one of the possible subject pronouns that can be used. The examples below show others.

5 Sentence Structures

  1. With infinitive phrases
  2. With gerunds
  3. With adjectives
  4. With complement clauses
  5. With ‘there to be’

How do you use ‘I’d love for’ and ‘I’d hate for’?

One of the tricky things about learning a language is knowing how to use the words and phrases you learn. Learning vocabulary and grammar in chunks can be very helpful, so I’ll give lots of examples.

While grammar explanations are not my preferred method, I know it helps some students, so I’ll give a brief explanation of 5 structures you can use these phrases in. If the explanations are too confusing, focus on the examples and identify the patterns in them.

1. Infinitive Phrases

When using ‘I’d hate for’ and ‘I’d love for,’ the structure often involves both noun phrases and infinitive phrases working together to convey a complete thought.

The noun phrase emphasizes the object or subject of the action, while the infinitive phrase adds details about the action or state itself. The infinitive phrase starts with ‘to’ followed by a base verb.

Example: I’d hate for the tickets to be sold out.

The structure is: “I” (subject pronoun) + “would hate” (modal verb phrase) + “for” (preposition) + “the tickets” (noun phrase) “to be sold out” (infinitive phrase).

Let’s look at 5 more examples.

  • I’d love for the team to win the championship.
  • I’d hate for you to fail.
  • I’d love for everyone to live in peace.
  • I’d hate for you to miss the deadline.
  • I’d love for us to grab a coffee next week.

Focusing on the Positive

In each example, whether hate or love is used, the speaker is expressing something positive. Let’s look at another way to express each of the above examples.

  • I really want the team to win the championship.
  • I really want you to succeed.
  • I really want everyone to live in peace.
  • I really want you to meet the deadline.
  • I really want to grab a coffee with you next week.

The Negative Side of Things

Is it always the case that these expressions are used to express something positive? Absolutely not. Interestingly, ‘I’d love for’ can convey negative feelings. In the following examples, a particular tone conveys irritation, annoyance, and often nagging.

  • I’d love for you to clean your room.
  • I’d love for you to help out around the house more.
  • I’d love for you to stop smoking.
  • I’d love for you to stop interrupting me all the time.
  • I’d love for someone to give him a taste of his own medicine.

What about ‘I’d hate for’? Well, again, if one uses a sarcastic tone, we understand that the speaker does not mean what they’re saying and is frustrated with someone’s selfishness.

God Forbid

The expression ‘God forbid’ is used in a similar way when said with a sarcastic tone.

  • I’d hate for you to not get your way. = God forbid you don’t get your way.
  • I’d hate for you to be inconvenienced. = God forbid you be inconvenienced.

In a sarcastic tone, the speaker is expressing that ‘you’ always gets their way and often inconveniences other people. The speaker is tired of the other person’s self-centeredness.

If said sincerely, ‘God forbid’ is a sincere statement expressing hope that something bad doesn’t happen.

Example: She’s flying overseas next week, and I’m a bit nervous. I hope her journey is smooth, and God forbid, there are no complications.

The Passive Construction

I want to give two more examples using ‘to be.’ These examples differ from the ones above because they use a passive construction at the end. This is not to be confused with the adjective structure we’ll look at in number 3, which also uses an infinitive phrase.

  • I’d love for your hard work to be recognized.
  • I’d hate for the proposal to be rejected.

Notice the difference between this and the active structure.

  • I’d love for your boss to recognize your hard work.
  • I’d hate for them to reject the proposal.

Let’s move on to the second structure.

2. With gerunds

In this context, a gerund phrase serves as a noun, representing an action or an activity. The gerund is then followed by an infinitive phrase to complete the thought.

Example: I’d love for dancing to be part of the event.

“I” (subject pronoun) + “would love” (modal verb phrase) + “for” (preposition) + “dancing” (gerund) + “to be part of the event” (infinitive phrase).

Here are five more examples that use ‘I’d love for’ and ‘I’d hate for’ with a gerund.

  • He’d love for cooking together to become a regular family activity.
  • I’d hate for procrastinating on important tasks to affect your success.
  • We’d love for fostering a positive work environment to be a priority.
  • They’d love for volunteering to be a community-wide effort.
  • She’d love for reading to be a cornerstone of the school curriculum.

Let’s move on to the third structure.

3. With adjectives

Adjectives add descriptive information to the noun, providing more details.

Example: I’d hate for this issue to become a major problem.

“I” (subject pronoun) + “would hate” (modal verb phrase) + “for” (preposition) + “this issue” (noun phrase) + “to become” (infinitive phrase) + “a major problem” (adjective + noun).

In this example, the structure includes a noun phrase (“this issue”) modified by an adjective (“major”), providing a more detailed description of the potential problem.

In most cases, the noun is understood and not repeated or represented at the end of the sentence.

Example: I’d love for our discussions to be more constructive.

“I” (subject pronoun) + “would love” (modal verb phase) + “for” (preposition) + “our discussions” (noun phrase) + “to be” (infinitive) + “more constructive” (adjective).

Additional examples:

  • I’d love for our collaboration to be innovative.
  • I’d hate for the outcome to be unfavorable.
  • I’d love for the presentations to be engaging.
  • I’d hate for the experience to be disappointing.
  • I’d love for the project to be successful.

We could reword each of these examples like so, with ‘one’ standing in for the original noun phrase:

I’d love for (noun phrase) to be a/an (adjective) one.

For example: I’d love for the project to be a successful one.

However, English speakers typically choose the most economical version.

Let’s move on to the fourth structure.

4. With relative clauses

In this structure, you use a clause to specify a particular person, group, or thing.

Example: I’d love for the team that worked hard to be recognized.

“I” (subject pronoun) + “would love” (modal verb phrase) + “for” (preposition) + “the team (noun phrase) + “that worked hard” (relative clause) + “to be recognized” (passive infinitive phase).

In this example, the speaker expresses a strong desire for a specific team, the one that worked hard, to be recognized. While the example above uses a passive infinitive phrase, as you’ll see below, the passive is not required with this structure.

Additional examples:

  • I’d love for the students who participated to receive recognition.
  • I’d hate for the students who worked hard to fail.
  • I’d love for the ideas that were discussed to be implemented.
  • I’d hate for the project that we’ve invested so much time in to fail.
  • I’d love for the projects that demonstrate creativity to be highlighted.

Now let’s move on to our fifth and final structure.

5. With ‘there to be’

All this grammar can be confusing, but because language follows patterns, I wanted to include one last pattern despite its similarity to the infinitive structure.

Example: I’d love for there to be opportunities for everyone to contribute.

“I” (subject pronoun) + “would love” (modal verb phrase) + “for” (preposition) + “there to be” (infinitive phrase) + “opportunities for everyone to contribute” (noun phrase).

Additional examples:

  • I’d love for there to be solutions to the current challenges.
  • I’d hate for there to be any misunderstanding.
  • I’d love for there to be a sense of unity and collaboration in the community.
  • I’d hate for there to be delays in the completion of the project.
  • I’d love for there to be open communication between us.

Tone and Meaning

In English, the same exact words spoken in a different tone convey a slightly different meaning. I recommend watching the short video to hear the difference, but I’ll provide a brief explanation here.

Example: I’d love for you to stop smoking.

  1. Said in a firm tone, this conveys a strong dislike for the behavior of smoking.
  2. Said in a more neutral tone, this conveys a preference without as much emotion.
  3. Said in a higher tone, this conveys unconditional support and a lack of judgement.

I hope you’ve found these examples helpful!

To hear the various tones, don’t forget to watch my YouTube video explaining ‘would love for’ and ‘would hate for.’

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